Nate ([info]bluetrafficcone) wrote,
@ 2003-07-25 12:52:00
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Single life
So I responded to some ads on craigslist a month or so ago, got a couple of followups, ended up corresponding with just one, she kept almost making plans to meet but kept bailing out, until eventually she just didn't respond. I posted a personal ad on craigslist that was long and descriptive, and in a three week period I got two responses total, one right away, another a week or so later. Both times the person writing seemed interesting and someone I'd like to meet, and both times, after I sent one response back, ending with "would you like to get coffee sometime?" I never got an email back. Nothing. I guess that's bad form for me to ask so soon to meet or something... as a guy, I never worry about 'creepy' members of the opposite gender... and as someone who's been online for years and is online all day at work I don't really like IM or email for real conversations anymore, and am anxious to have a face to face conversation with somone or at least hear their voice!

Nonetheless, it's kind of surreal... single women are about as real to me as a rare tropical flower I'd see on a nature show or a dragon in a story.

I realize I work long hours, don't like to hang out in bars, don't just walk up to a beautiful woman and give her my number, and don't take part in any activities outside work that I have a passion in (right now due to lack of time), all of which greatly decrease my chances of meeting a woman I'd really hit it off with. So I can't really make a case for there being a conspiracy against me yet.



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[info]angerona
2003-07-25 01:39 pm UTC (link)
But it may be rather sudden to ask them to meet. Perhaps they are hoping for a nice safe email exchange first, just to figure you out a bit.

Besides, long personal posts is not always the best thing: consider cutting it in half and then presenting the other half in the follow-up emails :)

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online overload
[info]bluetrafficcone
2003-07-25 03:03 pm UTC (link)
I think that's where my problem is... I don't want to get to know someone online. Not through email, not through IM. I spent too much time on computers as it is. I want to find a person online, and then meet them. But I guess a lot of women must see meeting online as a way to filter people in a way they couldn't in real life.

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[info]laurens10
2003-07-26 10:20 pm UTC (link)
I do believe the women sure done got cold feet!

Actually, I'd put my money on the possibility that this might reflect how many people use the net to explore things... such as getting out of relationships that they feel trapped in, living an alternative identity where they do express interest but not follow up on it IRL, that sort of thing. They might freeze up when it becomes 'real', but that is actually a good thing in a way... less time for you to figure out if they are really "for real".

It's like that King of the Hill episode where the guys decide to figure out how Boomhauer always has the chicks. So Bobby follows him around only to learn he hits on every woman he sees. He has a low percentage rate of success (5% maybe?), but because he is so persistent, he has a chick on his arm.

Not that that is the way to go about it or anything... but I guess rejection in the dating game is inevitable.

Hmm. This post is a bit of a non-sequitur, but I suppose if you squint, it makes sense.

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[info]laurens10
2003-07-26 10:40 pm UTC (link)
Oh, and if you ever want someone from the female persuasion to test read an ad for "nervous woman creepiness factor" (or really any other factors), I'm here. I easily get creeped out by personal ads, and read them as a form of sport to find the creepiest one. Especially the ones in the Jewish Advocate.

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